How can I get him to see that these things are all addictions and hard to kick, and he should quit looking down his nose at me? He refuses to see, while pointing out to our friends that I'm not supposed to drink, that I could be as nasty as he is and say things like, 'You're not supposed to smoke,' or, 'You're overweight and shouldn't eat that.' However, he is blind to the similarities to his overeating and smoking. I love my husband and don't want to leave him. My husband blames it for everything that goes wrong in our lives. You married a wise and compassionate man, and I want to thank you for sharing an important message for other parents of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning children. This wonderful man - a stepfather - gave acceptance to his son and taught it to me. My husband took me in his arms and said, 'Honey, he is no different today than he was yesterday.' In 1963, before homosexuality was understood or openly accepted, I discovered that my oldest son was gay.
